Sunday, May 20, 2018

EX-GAY TIP FOR MONDAY: REASONS TO STOP TALKING ABOUT GOING STRAIGHT, AND JUST DO IT

[MAKE SURE TO READ THIS LINK FIRST IF THIS IS YOUR FIRST TIME VISITING ENGLISH MANIF.]

With the current raging obsession among pro-gay elites about the supposed horrors of "conversion therapy," you may lose sight of a crucial reality. Tons of people go from gay to straight, with a relatively strong record of success. Are their straight marriages perfect? No, of course not, because no marriage is perfect. Do they sometimes grapple with recurring thoughts about homosexuality? Many do, but over time these recurrences matter less and less. Do they backslide? Some do, but they tend to recover.

It amazes me whenever public figures issue broad generalizations that say nobody has ever changed their sexual orientation. Nobody can even agree on what "sexual orientation" means. Not to mention that the LGBTQIAA+ acronym got so large because it had to accommodate complex stories like bisexuals, queer-identified people, pansexuals, questioning, etc. Many of these flukes include people who simply can't be called "gay" because they are in straight relationships now. Only the gay movement does not want to admit that people make this change so they create more fancy terms to hide what really happened.

But here is what I want to say to you, Mr. Ex-Gay out there. If you've been talking and thinking about getting out of gay life, just get started. Do it already! Below are some reasons why you should start.

If you're entertaining the thought of getting out of the gay lifestyle, you have probably already sowed your wild oats.

You are on this webpage for a reason. Something is going on with your gay life that you have come to find boring, disturbing, or harmful to you. Whatever wild time you had in the gay scene, it's behind you now. You do not need thrills or cheap amusements anymore because you've been there and done that. While going straight demands a lot from you, it will be worth it. The journey even with its tough moments will be more fun, probably, than spending the next three years on Grindr.

Much of what you do for the purpose of going straight is good for you even if, the Lord forbid, you decide in the end to go back to the gay world.

Everything English Manif sets down for the journey from gay to straight is good for you. Everyone should exercise and get fit. Everyone should quit porn and put the folks who exploit porn talent out of business. Everyone should find better things to do with their time than masturbate. If you follow the rules here, you will improve your health, become more confident and clear-headed, learn about yourself, and become more focused on pleasing others rather than on masturbatory self-gratification. That's all good!
Phase 3 is a good thing--devoting a time in your life to preparing yourself for a future mate.

If you remember, Phase 3 is where you have already left the gay community but you are not dating yet. You are working out, working on your career, learning to be a better listener, improving your living situation, and letting the bad memories of the past fade. You are building your faith in God and transforming yourself into the kind of man a woman finds desirable: strong, fit, ready to lead, a problem-solver, a good listener. These are good things you would want to do anyway, even if you were just going to stay in the gay community (which you aren't!)

Dating the way English Manif recommends it is fun.

If you take the time to go through Phases 1-3, then the dating period can be a lot of fun. Remember that English Manif does not recommend you try to become "straight" by proving you find every woman on earth attractive. English Manif says you have to be very persistent and patient and find one woman who is going to take your virginity and win your heart as she gives her heart to you. In phase 4 you will face rejection and might have your heart broken a few times, but the dating period is basically going places with women and having fun so you can get to know them and see if you like each other. It's fun to go to movies, carnivals, ferris wheel rides, hikes, museums, guest lectures, dinners in fancy restaurants. Women are really interesting! So even if you spend a lot of time in Phase 4 not feeling like a turned-on straight man, it doesn't matter--you are enjoying yourself. You are learning about different women. And chances are high that one of them will be into you and will pique your interest enough to push you over the threshold. At some point, a woman will attract your authentic interest. If you are relaxed and flexible enough during this dating period, it will not feel belabored and strict--it will happen naturally that at some point one of the women you date will make such good company, you will feel naturally drawn to going exclusive with her. At some point when you are kissing one of these women, and holding her in your arms, you will suddenly feel a warmth inside you, and you will realize, you aren't faking or forcing anything. You really like her.

Ex-gay men I know actually do well with women, when you compare them to regular straight guys.

I do not have a clear explanation for what I am about to tell you. I cannot go into many details because these men's pasts are carefully kept secrets. But the ex-gay men I've known have tended to couple with women within just a few years after deciding to leave the gay community. This may be because the men who get up the nerve to say they are going to leave and put their mind to it are a specific type of men. But mostly the cases I know point to the amazing capacity of men to apply even their hardest life lessons for good. Guys who come out of the gay scene and work hard on themselves to become more masculine, healthy, and stable, then go out and date carefully in search of a wife--these guys fare better than straight men who have taken heterosexuality for granted all their lives. My theory is that it takes a certain kind of guy to decide to go ex-gay. He is typically a guy who knows what he wants and appreciates what the value is of the goal he is pursuing. If he is determined to get out of the gay scene, he is usually going to be driven and focused, able to take control of his life and follow a plan. He comes with a history of overcoming adversity, usually, and that prepares him for the rejection of the dating years as well as the backlash from the gay community. The average single woman these days does not have tons of straight-guy options. Some of them are happy to get an ex-gay man who has learned through hardship how to consider other people's needs. Someone who went through years in a dark community lacking women is often aware of how valuable women are. And shows it. 

The alternative to getting out of the gay community is staying in the gay community.

And you know the gay community is a rough place. Otherwise you would not be on this website. Yes, it's true it is hard to give up porn and masturbation. But the alternative is to stay in the gay community and deal with unclean sex and snark all around you, for the rest of your life. Maybe pledging not to masturbate isn't that bad of an idea after all.